Why Do We Lie?

I’ve noticed that a lot of the kids in my year act different depending on who they’re with. One minute there extremely nice and the next minute their insulting you due to the large size of your nose. Ofcourse, I personally have never ever been insulted during one of these strange outbursts. Anyway, In my mind acting differently around different people is a form of lying. Think about it, your actions are not representing your true self. This prompted me to do some research to figure out why humans lie in this way.

I already realise that these days it’s really hard to fit in. Therefore people are hardly ever themselves. While researching I read an article on the issue. It claimed that we are so worried about what others think about us so we lie about who we are. I tend to agree with this statement. I’m certain that almost everybody has lied to fit in at some stage in their lives. I’ve done it, people have lied to me, I see it everywhere. We lie about who we are, what we do and what we believe. You can make up as many excuses as you want, but in the end, these lies are simply a product of low self-esteem.

In fact, studies have shown that when a persons self-esteem is threatened they immediately start lying more.  The same study also revealed that some people become so caught up in their lies that their minds cannot tell truth from fiction. This truly stresses how frightened we are to be ourselves. Is it possible that our world is so horrible that we can’t even be ourselves anymore? Has lying become so common that we don’t even notice it anymore?

Trust is the building block of all relationships, therefore It’s very sad that society has deteriorated like this. Lies hardly ever turn out good, but we still do it every day. We breach trusts and undermine our friends. Perhaps if we didn’t lie so much we would have stronger and more enjoyable relationships with our peers. Unfortunately, being human, we have a lot of really bad characteristics. 

 I know this post seems boring, all this talk of research and studies. However, the point I wish to make is a simple one. Being an optimist, I believe that once we realise our faults we can also fix them. People need to become aware of what they say to their friends. If your a person that lies because your worried about what others think, you should stop. Often you end up hurting the people you love with your false claims. If you be yourself and our friends don’t like it, well, maybe they were never real friends at all.


~ by John on July 1, 2009.

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